Seniors with Alzheimer’s or dementia commonly accuse the people closest to them of theft, mistreatment, or other terrible things. While cases of abuse do exist, oft-times these accusations can be caused by delusions – strong beliefs in things that aren’t real. It’s important to remember that they are not creating these delusions to hurt you. Their brains are failing and the delusions and paranoia are symptoms of the disease.
We have put together some helpful tips to help calm the situation with kindness.
People with dementia often feel anxiety, frustration, and a sense of loss. Those feelings, plus memory loss and confusion, can easily lead to paranoia. This happens because of their declining cognitive abilities.They’re trying to make sense of their reality as best they can. Do your best to stay calm and do not to take anything personally. Focus on reassuring them and show them that you care about how they’re feeling.
Don’t argue or use logic to convince – Arguing will only make them upset and more insistent. Remember their brain no longer processes logic properly. Instead, let them express their ideas, feelings, and opinions. It will be easier to calm and distract them if they feel heard and validated.
Use a calm, soothing tone and positive body language – Bring the adrenaline level down by speaking in a gentle, calm tone of voice, or offering a gentle touch or hug.
Create a calm environment – This will help reduce the tension in any situation.
Reduce noise and commotion by turning off the TV, asking other people to leave the room, or playing relaxing or classical music at a low volume.Aromatherapy is another way to create a soothing environment.
Stick to simple answers as to no overwhelm them or cause more agitation or confusion. Distract them with a pleasant activity – This will help them to stop obsessing. Switch to a fun, engaging, or satisfying activity as soon as possible after sympathizing with how they feel. Maybe offer a favourite snack or drink. Or you could ask for help with a task they enjoy.
Keep duplicates of frequently misplaced items – For example – If they’re constantly misplacing their wallet, buy another of the same style so you can offer to help them “find” it.
Seek support and advice from people who understand – remember you are not alone in this, there are so many support groups and people that can help. It is important to look after yourself as well so you can be at peace with this and have the strength you need to keep going.